You too may be feeling worried, scared, helpless, guilty and lots of other things.

• The death of their family member may be the toughest thing your friend has ever faced.

• It can be quite emotionally difficult for you.

• It is ok for you to have very mixed feelings.

Your friend’s parent, brother or sister has just died from cancer. This will be the toughest time of your friend’s life. Seeing your friend in distress can have an emotional effect on you.

• Shock/Disbelief

This can often be an initial reaction to the news your friend’ family member has died from cancer. The fact that this has happened to someone you care about can be a massive “WTF!” moment.

• Helpless

You might want to be able to help them/make them feel better and not know what to do. Just supporting them, listening when they need a chat, being a shoulder to cry, having a laugh together will be the best help you can give.

• Sadness

There are plenty of reasons to feel sad that this has happened to someone you care so much for. It is a natural reaction.

• You may initially feel nothing

Don’t be too hard on yourself if this happens, it might just mean that you need more time to let it sink in and process it all. Remember, it doesn’t mean you don’t care!

• Anger

Feeling angry that this has happened to your friend is pretty understandable. You may feel it’s not fair that this has happened to your friend, and that’s ok, but remember there are good and bad ways to deal with anger.

• Loss and Loneliness

A feeling of loss and loneliness can arise because your relationship may change. Your friend may not be up to spending as much time together as you’re used to (at least temporarily).

• Worried

You may be worried about your friend and how they are going to handle this experience. They will be grieving for their loss. Be aware of healthy and unhealthy ways to deal with grief so you can keep an eye out for your friend.

Be aware of where your friend can get help if they are not dealing with their situation very well.